I Love My Life

Many years ago I was living in a big beautiful old house that I had rented with my ex boyfriend and our 5 kids (my 3 and his 2). I had an in ground pool directly outside of my bedroom window. The house had 5 bedrooms, a big beautiful kitchen, a game room, and 10 acres of land. We had big parties and weekly hangouts with all of our friends and family. I spent my time volunteering at the school and running the kids to soccer, cheerleading, and football. I also had a big beautiful garden right near the pool, that I just loved taking care of. One of my favorite things to do at that house was to set up a chair right in front of this big patch of red bee balm flowers and to watch the hummingbirds. It was an incredible time in my life and I am so lucky to have had that.

You see, in the years before that I had fought a very long custody battle for two of my children, after barely escaping the incredible abuse of their father. I very narrowly made it out of there with my life. It took me a solid ten years to be stable again. And this house was the first time I not only had my girls with me, but I had the solid ground under my feet. By all accounts I had gotten everything I thought I wanted, and I should've been happy...right?

So why was it that I woke up one morning and I realized that my very first thought was "Ugh. I hate my life"? It was my first thought when I opened my eyes, and I realized that it must've been something I had been thinking for a long time. I don't know how long. But now that I knew the reality of it, I decided it must stop. It wasn't even true. Or if it was, I was determined for it not to be.

Fast forward to a year or two later...

I decided to leave my ex because although he was a great guy, and he was easy to live with in many ways, I came to the conclusion that his children were just not capable of loving me and my girls. And things were just unpleasant there. I wanted more for us. And I even wanted more for them. So I left. We bought a house across the country and we have lived here ever since.

One of the first things I decided in my new house was that I was going to learn how to love my life instead of waking up thinking I don't. So I made a huge sign out of vinyl letters that says "I love my life". I hung it on the wall directly in front of my bed so it would be the first thing I saw every single day.

When I first hung that up I immediately felt embarrassed and I seriously thought about taking it down. I didn't want anyone to see it because I thought that maybe they would judge me somehow. I also didn't feel like it was true. And that was really hard for me because I am someone who likes to live in integrity. I even had a hard time looking at it myself at first. Even though it was extremely uncomfortable for me, I still kept it up there.

What was amazing is that in a just few months I started actually feeling like I loved my life. And within a few months after that, it was undeniable. I started telling everyone how much I loved my life and all the reasons I had each day to love it even more. I starting seeing so many things in my life that I loved. And the things I didn't love seemed to get smaller.

Within the next few years loving my life became so true for me that when I became a life coach, I decided to call myself a Love Your Life Coach. And it has become my mission to help other people to learn how to love their lives too.

It's amazing how one small decision can shape your entire world in such a short amount of time. Since then I have found many ways to make my life into the best one possible. If you ever find it challenging to like the world you are living in, I am here, and I really can help. It's easier than you might think to make small adjustments that equal huge changes.☼

*pic is me from when I was little.

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As always...I love you SO much and I hope that you have every great and wonderful thing that you can possibly imagine in this world. You are amazing and you deserve to love your life.

Love, Tami ♥

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